You’re naturally unique
In a world where it’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of perfection, i love this quote from the wonderful Martha Wainwright:
“Quirks and strange personality things… because that’s really what your sound’s going to be, who you are.”
Our unique quirks and idiosyncrasies are what make our sound truly special.
Embracing Your Unique Voice
Every singer and songwriter has a distinct voice, not just in the literal sense but also in their style, their phrasing, and the emotions they convey. This uniqueness is often rooted in personal experiences, emotions, and yes, those “weird quirks and strange personality things” that Wainwright speaks of.
When you sing, your voice is a reflection of your inner world. It’s shaped by your joys, sorrows, dreams, and fears, your history. Those little imperfections, the unexpected trembles, the unpolished edges—they are what make your sound real and relatable. So whilst we work on our vocal technique we are not trying to iron out these quirks in pursuit of a flawless performance. That would strip away the very essence of what makes your voice and music compelling.
Celebrating Your Own Vocal Instrument
Many aspiring singers fall into the trap of wanting their voice to mimic popular artists like Billie Eilish or Beyoncé or when I was younger Mariah Carey or Michael Jackson, whatever style is currently in fashion. However, true artistry lies in embracing and honing your own vocal instrument. Your voice, shaped by your influences and your individual quirks, has a unique range and quality that no one else possesses. Instead of conforming to a trend, celebrate the distinctive aspects of your voice. Technical proficiency should serve to enhance your natural sound, not alter it to fit a mold. By cherishing your unique vocal traits and fully exploring your instrument, it’s range, available tones and textures you can create a sound that is memorable and true to who you are as an artist.
The Power of Authenticity in Songwriting
One of the ways of ‘finding your voice’ is to write your own songs. Songwriting is often an intimate process. It’s about capturing a piece of your soul and translating it into words and melodies. Your ‘quirks’ and preferences—whether it’s a love for unconventional chord progressions, a penchant for unusual lyrical themes, or a distinct rhythm—infuse your songs with a signature that is uniquely yours.
When you embrace your personality traits in your songwriting, and write from your heart it helps you to ‘find’ your voice.
Honouring Your Unique Sound
Your unique sound is a mosaic of your experiences, personality, and quirks. It’s what sets you apart from other artists. Yes learn ‘the rules’ but celebrate your individuality. Embrace the nuances in your voice, the peculiarities in your phrasing, and the distinctive style of your compositions.
Consider artists like Bob Dylan, Björk, or Tom Waits. Their success and enduring appeal lie in their ability to embrace their unique quirks. They didn’t strive to fit in; that’s a sure fire way to not stand out. They celebrated their differences and, in doing so, created music that is timeless and universally admired.
Practical Steps to Embrace Your Quirks in Music
- Reflect on Your Influences: Identify the artists and songs that resonate with you. What quirks do they embrace in their music that you admire?
- Experiment Fearlessly: Don’t be afraid to try new things in your singing and songwriting. Play with different styles, themes, and sounds. Let your creativity flow without self-judgment.
- Record and Listen: Record your practice sessions and listen back. Notice the unique aspects of your voice and style. Embrace the elements that make your sound distinctive.
- Write from the Heart: Write songs that reflect your true feelings and experiences. Authenticity comes from being honest with yourself and your audience.
- Seek Feedback from Trusted Sources: Share your music with friends, mentors, or fellow musicians who appreciate your individuality. Constructive feedback can help you refine your sound while staying true to yourself.
Conclusion
Martha Wainwright’s quote is a powerful reminder to cherish our quirks and embrace our individuality in the world of singing and songwriting. Our “weird quirks and strange personality things” are not just traits to be hidden away; they are the very essence of who we are as artists. By celebrating these aspects of ourselves, we unlock our true potential and create music that resonates with authenticity and originality.
So, cherish every single one of those weird quirks and strange personality things, for they are the building blocks of your unique identity and sound. They are what make your music, and you, truly special. We each have a voice and the world needs all our voices.
If this resonates and you’d like support discovering your own unique vocal identity, I’d love to help. I’m a London vocal coach working online and in person, specialising in expressive vocal coaching and artist development for singers and songwriters.
If you feel ready to explore your voice more deeply, you’re welcome to get in touch.
