In the world of music, trusting one’s own ear is crucial for creative autonomy. It’s the internal compass that guides vocalists and musicians through melodies, harmonies, and rhythms etc. Yet, the journey of trusting oneself is fraught with challenges, particularly when it comes to self-belief and an overabundance of self-criticism that can paralyse creativity.
The Importance of Self-Trust & The Danger of Over-Critiquing Yourself
Autonomy and self-trust are fundamental to any artist. They form the bedrock of creative expression and allow singers and musicians to explore their unique sound. But this can be a journey and a learned skill.
While a degree of self-editing and critique is necessary when creating, singing, songwriting etc, excessive self-criticism can be highly detrimental. Constantly questioning your abilities and second-guessing your choices can halt your creative process entirely. This level of self-scrutiny can lead to self-doubt and insecurity, making it impossible to finish projects or share your work with others.
The Value of Another Set Of Ears
Another set of trusted ears can offer valuable perspectives that help us improve. However, it’s crucial to discern which voices to trust and which to disregard. Constructive criticism should not harm. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. Many musicians, including myself, have encountered harmful criticism over the years. I remember being 16 when a music teacher told me, “I asked my friend, who’s high up in the music industry, and she said she doesn’t like your voice.” Such remarks can be devastating, especially to such a young artist. Luckily, I had the presence of mind to respond, “A lot of people don’t like Kate Bush’s voice either.” This shut him down but not everyone has the resilience to deflect such feedback. I am now very much aware that I sing like a f*cking angel and that person wouldn’t dare say anything like that to me now. One must question the motives of someone who would say such a thing (especially if feedback isn’t even asked for).
Finding Trustworthy Ears
Given these challenges, it’s essential to find trustworthy ears—people who can offer balanced thoughts, questions, true support. These ears should respect your artistic vision. I’ve worked with many producers and collaborators who believe they need to make negative comments to justify their involvement. This mindset can be damaging and unproductive, sadly some artists actually think it means that person is more valuable to them ‘because they’re telling them the hard truth’ – actually this is the original desire of the person feedback giver. Any feedback should be aimed at helping you grow, not stopping you in your tracks.
The Role of Supportive Feedback
Kind, helpful feedback is not about false praise or blowing smoke. It’s about offering insights that encourage improvement while respecting the artist’s unique voice. Of course, I strive to provide this type of feedback. I’m on the side of the people I work with, we’re a team afterall!
Surrendering to the Creative Process
Ultimately, while we must trust our and others ears, there are also moments when we need to surrender to the creative process. And trust what the angels are giving us. Sometimes, inspiration flows through us in ways we don’t fully understand. In these moments, it’s important to let go and allow the music to express itself. Trust in your voice and what is coming through.
Conclusion
If you’re looking for someone to support you, reach out. Remember, while we can’t always trust our own ears entirely, with the right support, we can navigate the journey to create something truly special. Finding trustworthy ears can save us from the pitfalls of excessive self-criticism, allowing our true artistic potential to shine.
